The following was written by Kyle Worley, from Village Church in Dallas, and was posted on CBMW‘s web. I thought about editing, but realized there is nothing I could add, nor is there anything for me to delete. So I post it here in its whole, as one who shares this complimentarian perspective (here, here) and sentiment. ~ WDG
As we have been reflecting on some of the corruptions of biblical manhood, I think that it is high time that we take an opportunity to apologize for the impact and influence any of these corruptions have had on the home, the church, or the culture. Without a doubt it is one of the most perverse aspects of sin that it can take the truth of scripture and bend it to the will and the ways of man. Like God in the garden, who enquires “who told you that you were naked?” What corruptions have you swallowed? What lies do you believe? Who told you that ‘biblical’ manhood looked like that?
While we firmly believe that God has ordained complementarianism as the governing sexual and marital ethic of the Christian life, we acknowledge that a corrupt complementarianism and those false ways of living that some may have treacherously called ‘biblical’ manhood have led to the perversion of the wonderful truth that God has laid out for human flourishing in the home, in the church, and in the culture.
So, in the vein of those prophets who pled for the sins of their kinsman, it is time that we corporately repent and lament the perverseness of a manhood that has been shaped by sin and not by the authority of Scripture.
We confess that we are broken and are in need of your grace. May you draw our gaze to the God-man Jesus Christ and the full scope of scripture as the authoritative revelation for what biblical manhood should resemble.
We repent for the sins of our passive brothers, unwilling to lead when it counts.
We repent for the sins of our chauvinist brothers, covering up abuse in the name of authority and male leadership.
We repent for the sins of our brothers who refuse to grow up, Lord would you call them to greater maturity.
We repent for any machismo that has seeped into our churches , may we be disgusted with misogyny in all its forms.
We repent for men who are trying to escape from the responsibilities you have entrusted to them, may they find joy in their stewardship.
We repent for men who are attempting to “lone wolf” their lives, Lord may they find your church as beautiful as you do.
We repent for men unwilling to sacrifice their control and comfort to lead in all spheres of life , may they look to He who laid down His life for His bride.
We repent for men who are so jaded with cynicism that they lose love for the King and hope for his coming kingdom.
We pray that you would rescue women who are trapped in abuse and that you would crush the purposes of abusers who treacherously call themselves “complementarians” or “biblical men.” Bring them to repentance and comfort those who have been bruised and broken beneath their hands.
We pray for those men who are trapped in sexual immorality. Lord, would you break the chains of pornography in the life of the church. Those wicked chains that place men in shackles next to the sex trafficking victims, pornographers, and orphaned.
We pray that you would continue to renew a movement towards good, beautiful, and true complementarian practice. May the witness of those men and women who have been created in your image, given distinct roles in the world, and who treasure the gospel tell the true story of complementarianism. May the lies that creep in under the banner of complementarianism in churches, homes, and communities across the world be crushed by this witness.
Comfort the woman abused, the child orphaned, the widowed mother, the widowed father, the church filled with faithful women.
Comfort the young woman not righteously pursued, the young boy with no father to learn from, the wife who serves the belligerent and lazy husband.
Confront those trapped in sexual immorality, confront churches filled with passive men, confront the young men unwilling to grow up.
Crush abortion, crush the movement to undermine the beauty of Christian covenant marriage, crush the porn industry, crush abuse at home and in the church.
Come, Lord! Come, Lord! Come, Lord, would you come?
Kyle Worley is Connections Minister at the Village Church in Dallas, TX. He is the author of Pitfalls: Along the Path to Young and Reformed and blogs regularly at The Strife. You can find Kyle on Twitter @kyleworley.