6 Tips for God’s People in Response to a Culture Changed by Court Decree

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While I do not want to become one of those guys who perpetually toots out only one tune, and I certainly do not want to make gay marriage or homosexuality the priamary notes of that tune, I do want to follow up yesterdays post with another reflecting on appropriate responses to the Supreme Court rulings yesterday.  This one is from an acquaintance, John Freeman, President of Harvest USA.


As the Supreme Court struck down the 1996 Defense of Marriage Act and the referendum of Proposition 8 in California, it certainly seems that the tide of our culture will continue to steadily move in the direction of the acceptance of gay marriage. So, what now? How are followers of Jesus Christ, and the church, to think about and respond to the recent decision by the Supreme Court? It is crucial that the church as an institution, and individual believers, respond well. John Freeman, president of Harvest USA, a ministry devoted to those struggling with sexual sin, thinks that the best response of the church now is to do the following six things:

1. We should not lash out in anger or be afraid

A fight or flight response is normal when cataclysmic events occur. But both these instinctual responses are unhelpful and unproductive. My wife has often told me, “John, when you speak or react out of fear or anger . . . bad things come out of your mouth.” She is usually right. Admittedly, we may legitimately fear where this decision will next take our nation; and we may legitimately be angry over how God’s design for the institution and function of marriage as it has historically benefited society is being hijacked. But we need to keep this in mind: As believers, our true citizenship is in heaven. We must think and act like those whose world has been impacted but not devastated.

I think a more productive response would be that of grief. We need to be grieved at what happened, grieved at the state of the culture, and grieved at how blind people are to the truth. Jesus wept over Jerusalem and her refusal to turn to him as their shepherd, and the Old Testament displayed a similar common response to tragic national events, where the people grieved in sackcloth and ashes.

Just grieve? Doesn’t seem very productive or helpful. It feels so powerless! Yes, but we need to remind ourselves that the “weakness” of the church is how the power of God is best displayed. The reason we don’t have to be angry or afraid is because . . .

2. We need to remind ourselves that God is still on the throne . . . neither slumbering nor sleeping

Although decided in the private chambers of the Supreme Court, this has not happened out of God’s sight. He is the God who knows all and sees all. This is beyond our rational understanding, but by faith we believe that God remains in control over all things, even over the decisions made by man and society that veer away from his wisdom. To respond with anger or abject fear is to forget this

Why God has allowed the acceptance of homosexuality and the legalization of same-sex marriage to be so prominent today will remain a mystery at some level. Why he has allowed it to split churches, denominations and families must also be trusted to his providence. We only know what Scripture does tell us: that this is a broken world, a world where his image-bearers are in rebellion against him and his intentional design for creation. Nothing really new here.

We must, as his followers, trust in Him at all times, especially when it seems that ungodliness has the upper hand. This is the courage of faith, and that courage must also move us to . . .

3. Boldly and gently proclaim the ultimate destructiveness of ungodly actions

While many will celebrate this decision as the advancement of an enlightened society and a triumph of inclusiveness and tolerance, the reality is that actions made in opposition to God’s design carry with them significant consequences. Several years ago noted pastor, teacher and author, James Boice, said, “It’s God’s world, not our world. Although we may want to rewrite the rules, we can’t, because it’s God’s world. And sin is destructive, whether or not we admit or agree, it’s still destructive.” By removing the definition of marriage from its historical and God-designed nature as being between one man and one woman, how long will it be before other forms of “marriage” will be legal (such as polygamy and polyamory)? What will be the effect on children and families as we move into territory that is completely new to human society?

These kind of ungodly decisions serve to remind us that the world in which we live is hostile to things of God. It reminds us that we live here as “aliens and strangers,” that we’re temporary residents of a foreign land. But it still remains a world that God so loved that he sent his only Son, so . . .

4. We must not avoid our calling: to engage the culture and all people with the truth and mercy of the gospel.

Even as culture goes off the rails, and we may seem powerless to stop it, we’re not off the hook from engaging the culture and actively loving people. Although we may want to retreat and go into self-protective mode, we must not. The church did not do so as the Roman culture descended into greater ungodliness and injustice. The downward spiral of our society and the increasing celebration of what is explicitly forbidden in God’s word make our sharing the gospel more important than ever! The gospel is the only hope for a broken world and fallen hearts. For this reason the church must not attack and demean gays and lesbians because of this issue. The gospel is a message of hope for everyone; not a platform for condemnation and ridicule. The gospel is heard through the words and deeds of His people. Another way to put this is our need too . . . .

5. “Keep calm and carry on” as God’s people and his church.

During World War II, people in Britain, during the bombing, felt that the world was falling apart. “Keep calm and carry on,” became a common phrase on billboards and posters as a way to encourage the British people. We need to follow this advice as well. How do we “keep calm and carry on” when we see everything around us in a downward spiral and decay? We lean on and trust in the Rock of our salvation, who is still with his people while we continue to carry out his Kingdom work.

We must not let these things have more power over us than they really do. And, thankfully, we still live in a country that allows our views to be heard and we should make our concerns known, about the reality of unintended consequences making further trouble and about the future of religious liberty, two major issues embedded in this controversy. But, again, we should not place our faith in any human political or legal structure as our ultimate protector or savior. Jesus said that his kingdom was “not of this world”—neither is ours. The mission of the church continues. The church cannot be either dismissed or destroyed. It remains God’s vehicle of redemption, worked out through his people. That mission will endure until he returns. And in the meantime, the church—and especially the next generation inside her doors— needs to be strengthened by. . .

6. Relevant and effective preaching and teaching about sex.

The silence of the church on many issues has contributed to the emergence of movements that have been detrimental to mankind (see Germany and the rise of Nazism). It can be argued that the church’s failure to preach and teach about why God’s design for sexuality is good, relevant and functional (even in a broken world) has created a vacuum for the acceptance of same-sex relationships. The church has said “No!” for too long as its main message on sexuality and now needs to say “Here’s how,” or here’s how God’s design for sexuality remains the best venue for people and society to flourish.


On a more personal note, I am looking forward to having John Freeman at our church this coming Fall.  On November 9 of this year, John will be leading a seminar, Finding Sexual Sanity in Sex-Crazed Society, at Grace Covenant Presbyterian Chuch in Williamsburg.

If you are interested, check out the Harvest USA blog.  You will find a number of excellent, thoughtful articles on a wide range of matters related to sexual brokenness: Harvest USA Blog

6 thoughts on “6 Tips for God’s People in Response to a Culture Changed by Court Decree

  1. You are inaccurate. The “Keep Calm and Carry On” poster was designed in case of actual invasion, but never published.

    You are inaccurate: the Christian response to the Supreme Court decisions is Jubilation. DOMA, also known as the “We Hate Queers Act”, was a monstrous evil, and we are well rid of it. Thank God. And the fools who sought to challenge the earlier dismissal of Prop 8 were rightly decided to have no locus standi.

    God loves God’s gay children.

  2. Clare,

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts – and your apparent jubilation.

    I am not sure what your point is about the “Keep Calm and Carry On” poster. In his post John alludes to a phrase that he says was posted around England during WWII… And I know there is a poster available for purchase that uses the phrase… But I am not sure what the relevance is of your point that the “poster was never published”. John did not say that the poster was published, just the phrase posted. But even if his story had some historic inaccuracies, how does this detract from the point he was illustrating?

    As for your statement “God loves God’s gay children”… I would have to agree with you. In fact, I would challenge you to find anything I have posted on my blog that would say otherwise. God does love his children. And all of God’s children are broken in a variety of ways, and without hope except for the shed blood of Christ as atonement for for the sin of all who believe. Thus I agree, those who are called by God to be his children, are truly his children – be their sin muder, lying, self righteousness, or whatever, and yes even homosexuality. Christ came into the world to save sinners – and I am one of them.

    But… Those whom God calls, he justitfies; those he justifies, he sanctifies. (See Romans 8.29-30) In other words, those whom he calls to be his children recognize their brokenness, repent of it, and trust in God’s grace – not only grace for forgiveness of our sin, but grace to die to sin and grow more and more to reflect the character of Christ.

    I am curious to your point however. Forgive me if I am in error, but I suspect from the tone of your comment that you have a far different meaning when you say “God loves God’s gay children”. I wonder: Does God love them ‘because’ they are gay? Does he love them despite the fact that they are gay? Does he love all gay people, or just those called to be his children?

    If you care to respond I’d be happy to hear. I have no intention of demeaning your thoughts. I would, however, likely want to know the basis of your theology and your theories…

    Grace & Peace,


  3. Tiens. Not published during the war. The point about the “Keep Calm and Carry On” poster is that it was designed for disaster, and what we have instead is Liberation. All good Christians should be delighted that DOMA is gone, for it was evil.

    I am not sure you are worth engaging with. I am not sure you have ears to hear. Have a look at http://clareflourish.wordpress.com/bible-gay/ and the resources linked there, to learn about Scripture. Stop telling lies about God, and lies about gay people. Gay sex is no more “abominable” than using a pen with my left hand.

  4. Wow! Fascinating. I invite you to answer a couple simple questions, and you respond with ad hominem attack. I have to assume that my “unworthiness” rests in projections you make about me based upon my view of marriage being designed and governed by God, through his Word, which defines marriage as being between one man and one woman. Interesting, so does natural law.

    I will assume your response means that you are unable to give a basis of your views; that, while you may have a high level of intelligence, you have no authority other than your own speculation. That’s fine. That is your right. But please have the courtesy to refrain from impugning the intelligence and the motives of others, simply because they do not support your cause. It is difficult to see any moral virtue in such vitriol. In other words, your anger puts you at risk of forfeiting the moral high ground you seem to want to claim.

  5. You need to look up what ad hominem means.

    Your fake Christianity divides you from God’s creation. You think I worry about moral high ground, you twist my use of the word “worth” into “unworthiness”, you imagine that God supports your meaningless and destructive prejudice. You imagine that God’s “Love” involves torturing us, and so drain the word of all meaning. And, because you cannot refute my argument, you deny that it is argument, calling it mere assertion. God forgive you.

  6. ad ho·mi·nem/ˈad ˈhämənəm/


    1.(of an argument or reaction) Arising from or appealing to the emotions and not reason or logic.

    2.Attacking an opponent’s motives or character rather than the policy or position they maintain.

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